You are not a farm widow.

Since social media and blogging has become a big scene, I have noticed a trend. Farm wives jokingly calling themselves ‘farm widows’. In this context farm widow refers to somebody (generally the wife) who spends long days and nights alone while the spouse (usually the husband) is busy farming.

Since planting season is in full swing in Iowa, I just wanted to take a moment to say: you are NOT a farm widow. Your husband will come home tonight and climb into bed with you. Your children will get to play with daddy again. You are not a widow. You have a hard working farmer husband, be thankful for that.

As a farm wife every time my husband leaves to run a tractor or climb a grain bin I can feel a little pang of anxiety deep down inside. Farming is one of the most dangerous occupation worldwide, killing thousands each year. Every year thousands of spouses and children never make it home. Thousands of women never get to kiss their husbands again. They are farm widows.

My husband works long hard hours to provide for not only us but for you. For the world. Be thankful for your farmer and don’t call yourself a farm widow as a joke.

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Winter on the Farm.

Winter on the Farm.

Winter on the farm.
It’s pretty. It means Christmas will soon be here. It means snowmobiling. It means the New Year will be here soon.
But it also means: cold.
Really, really cold.
The corn has been harvested and now the wind blows like crazy. We don’t have many trees (well actually we just have one) but we have a lot of really big buildings. This blocks a lot of the wind but it still whips around. Snow blows and drifts easily in the country. And anytime there is a major snowfall there’s no doubt the gravel roads will drift shut. When we have a blizzard the snow drifts right up by our front door, last year we had a couple of 3-4ft. drifts right outside the door. Such a nice surprise to open the door and get a face full of freezing cold snow. Wakes you right up! Thank God for tractors & buckets. Because a shovel ain’t going to cut it! We don’t have that much snow yet, maybe 6 inches so far, but it’ll come.
You would think that since gravel roads have loose gravel and have texture that they would be easier to drive on and less slick. That’s not always the case. Gravel roads are going to be the last ones the county comes out to clean, they also don’t get salt or deicer put on them before the storm or after for that matter. Last year when we had that big ice storm the gravel roads were 10x as bad as the paved roads. 4×4 is pretty much a requirement of living in the country. Well not necessarily a requirement, I know a lot of people that have cars that live in the country, but 4×4 makes your life so much easier. Just use your head, and drive safe!
The weather has been very cold this last week, and that makes everything harder. As I sit here typing this it is -1 outside, but with the windchill feels like -20. Working outside is harder, working in unheated buildings is harder, checking the mail is harder (ahem, I drive 😉 – too far to walk, may freeze to death), bringing in groceries is harder, just being outside doing anything is harder. In fact when it feels double digits below zero, it makes leaving the house harder. If you have to be outside a lot in the cold I suggest investing in a pair of Carhartt bibs, the nice insulated ones. They have nice coats that match them also, I have one and I’m happy with it. But seriously, the one thing I could not live without is my Polaris snowmobile coat. They keep you SO warm. But if you’re working or going to get dirty/greasy don’t wear this. $300 is too much for a work coat, at least for me! But for being out and about in town or obviously for snowmobiling this coat is a must.